Here in Madison our water has a very high mineral content. For this reason, like most everyone else, we have a water softener that–ideally at least–takes some of the minerals out of our water. While this works well enough for most use, the water still comes out of the tap with a relatively high mineral content. As a result, we need to replace our coffee maker about once a quarter.
This morning, this MONDAY morning, our most recent coffee maker succumbed to calcium deposits and turned out coffee roughly the strength and color of weak tea. As you can imagine I was not happy. So off I went to the local coffee shop to read and write and, of course, for coffee. And this got me thinking about the detachment.
To hear some talk, detachment means not being dependent on people, place, events or things. Maybe this is because we think more and more in term borrowed from clinical psychology and not the Christian ascetical tradition. The unhappy result of this is that think about detachment as if it were in someway the opposite of addiction. But is this really the case? To answer this we need to think a moment about addiction and what it means to be dependent.
At the heart of any addiction is a certain kind of pathological or unwholesome dependence.This is important because the dependence we see in addiction is a distortion of wholesome dependence based in gratitude. Let me explain. Continue reading